Men, you want to treat women better? Here’s a list to start with – Trending Stuff

Over the last week, theres and elsewhere. TV writer Nicole Silverberg asserts that if guys want to measure up, they could

Hey guys, what are you planning to do? Because you need to do better. Here are ideas on how you should treat women better.

Talk to your friend who is “kind of a creep” in the office.
Don’t talk over women.
If you’re asked to be on a panel/team and see that it’s all guys, say something. Maybe even the place!
When you find another guy talk over a woman, say: “Hey, she was saying something.”
Learn to read a fucking room.
Don’t call women “crazy” in a professional setting.
Don’t use your “feminism” as a way to get women to trust you. Show us on your social that is self-congratulatory websites, not in your day-to-day life.
Don’t touch women you don’t know, and frankly, ask yourself why you feel the need to touch women in general.

Do you believe any woman on earth owes you something? She doesn’t. Even if you’re like, “Hm, but what about basic respect?” Ask yourself whether you’ve shown her the same.
Don’t send pictures of your penis unless she just asked for them.
If a girl says no to a date, don’t ask her again.
If a woman has not given an enthusiastic “yes” to sex, back the hell off.
If a woman is actually drunk, she cannot agree to you and she also cannot agree to your buddy who seems to be trying something. Your buddy is your responsibility, so say something and intervene.
If you do the perfect thing, don’t expect praise or payment or a pat on the back or even a “thank you from that woman”. Congratulations, you were decent.
Involve women in your creative endeavors, then let them have equivalent part in them.
Don’t make misogynistic jokes.
Don’t expect women to be “nice” or “cute” and don’t get upset when they aren’t those things.
Don’t make assumptions about a woman’s intelligence, capabilities or wants based on how she dresses.
Pay women as much as you pay guys.
If a girl tells you that you fucked up, and you feel like shit, don’t put it on that girl to make you feel better. Apologize without qualification and then go away.
Don’t punish women for witnessing your vulnerability.
Don’t get defensive when you get called out.
Don’t have to literally witness a man being horrible so as to believe that he’s horrible. Trust and believe women.
Don’t use your power to get women’s attention/company/sex/etc..
Be aware of your inherent power in situations and use it to protect women, particularly via talking to other guys.
Stop thinking that because you’re also marginalized or a survivor which you cannot inflict pain or oppress women.
If women’s pain makes you feel pain, don’t prize your pain over hers, or make that pain her difficulty.
Don’t read a list like this and believe that most of them don’t apply to you.

(These also apply to how to better treat transgender and non-binary people, that are at more danger compared to cis women).

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